the dickens family

This post is related to the article reminding us to encourage our husbands. I got several responses from friends. I"ve posted a few below. Feel free to email your response if you'd like.

• My assignment was to tell my sweet husband what a great lover he is. Besides satisfying a need for sex, I truly believe a man needs to hear verbal approval of what a "stud" he is.

• I often send encouraging e-mails to David. Also, I did write him a list of
"18 Reasons Why I Love You" for our 18th wedding anniversary. Although, he is not one to get emotional, he was overjoyed at the love I could have for, as he put it, such a flawed man.

Although I think we all need to know that we are loved & appreciated, I feel that it is my calling as Dave’s wife to be his "help meet" in this area. Of course, I try to be a good "help meet" in other ways as well, but our men need our encouragement, so why not give it. Can it be difficult at times? Of course! I am not so happy to encourage him when we haven't been getting along, but sometimes, this is the best time to be the positive light in his life. He then knows that no matter what is going on, I am still there, loving him & supporting him.

• These 60 years have happened because WE DO and not just "read" from good books, even the Bible. For all these years, I have used "loving notes" (we HAD NO EMAIL) to encourage Bob and the kids many, many times....Often Bob would find a note from me where his shaving "stuff" would be.
IF he left, I ALWAYS put a loving note in his suitcase to be found on his arrival where he was going....IF I LEFT I left several notes for him....in the most "usual" places so he would find them. Always one on the pillow (covered by the bedspread so he would not see it until he went to bed) telling him I would be missing him and how much I love him.....
I use to put notes in lunch boxes for school or inside a book.....for the kids.....
NOTES REALLY WORK I believe....they can keep them and I found Bob did keep many of his.....a reminder of how much we are TOGETHER even if we are apart.